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Among the team at Connecte we are always sharing our favourite or latest finds that relate to psychology whether it be articles, Ted Talks, videos, podcasts, websites, apps… We are so passionate about this practice and it so much a part of our culture here at the office that we thought maybe you’d like to be part of it too! So, once a month we will update our “picks” for you to explore what we think is great out there in psychology. Don’t forget to refresh once a month!
My pick for the month is a great book I’ve been reading by Dr. Dianne Neumark-Sztainer called “I’m like so fat! Helping your teen make healthy choices about eating and exercise in a weight-obsessed world”. I picked it up in preparation for a workshop I’m doing for parents who want to help protect their kids from developing both obesity and eating disorders. This is quite a job for parents in the toxic environment in which we live! As Dianne Neumark-Sztainer puts it in her book, our social environment is one that "pushes fat but rewards thin, encouraging us to overeat and be sedentary, yet stay unrealistically thin and muscular". In the book she helps parents understand that while their kids eating and body issues are not the fault of the parent, there is indeed a lot that parents can do to try to mitigate the risk for their children. She provides questions and worksheets to help you understand the risk factors and protective factors for your children and gives concrete tips for how you can help. For example, did you know that the simplest tradition of having family meals is associated with tons of positive outcomes for teens including healthier diet, less unhealthy weight-control behaviours, less unhealthy behaviours like smoking, alcohol and drugs and less depressive symptoms? And that just telling your kids that it’s normal to sometimes hate their body can help them tolerate those difficult days without resorting to dieting or other unhealthy weight-control behaviours. I learned a lot for my own kids while reading this book!
This article, on the perils of advice-giving, struck a cord with me, not only because I fall into the “helper” category and am often overly eager to give advice, but also because I have been the recipient of unwanted and unhelpful (yet well-intentioned) advice. In the article, the author talks about how sometimes our advice-giving is more about our need to be seen as good helpers than about really understanding what is going with our friends. Instead of advice-giving, the author suggests, try being fully present, listening deeply, and asking questions that give the other a chance to express their own truths. This understanding and validating approach has been supported by research as cultivating closeness in our relationships (Laurenceau, Barrett, & Pietromonaco, 1998). Check out The Gift of Presence, The Perils of Advice here!